Everyday Adventuring, Parenthood

Absence, presence, chaos & order.

It’s been… a while, to say the least, since I last posted. And the reason is the title of this post!

Maisie is a handful, in the very best way. She’s curious, playful, and loving. And that requires most of my attention, most of the time. That means that, for a while, I don’t have the time to do a lot of the stuff I used to do. I have very little time to write. I play the same four chords on the ukulele so that Maisie can dance, but don’t have time to actually play songs. I mindlessly scroll on social media, reacting to things as I go, but heaven forbid I should actually respond to a message.

So my absence here is because I’m being very present with my daughter. And I love it. I was worried that I might be hit with post partum depression at some point as I have struggled with anxiety and depression before, but I am so thankful that hasn’t been the case. I’ve had days of being unimaginably tired, but they pass, and usually Maisie’s joy and dependence bouys me up. I genuinely really enjoy spending time with Maisie. I do miss some of the things I used to do, but I value our time together so so much – I definitely wouldn’t change how things are.

One delightful thing that had fallen into place in the last 6-8 weeks is a bit of routine. Maisie has kind of settled into a rough outline of a day. Waking between 7-8.30, napping about three hours later for between 45mins-2 hours. Then she typically wakes for another 2.5-3.5 hours before a 30-45min afternoon nap. Then it’s dinner and bedtime from 6ish-7.30ish. It’s nowhere near an actual schedule but the outline of one is way more than we have had for the last 10 months!

We decided early on that we were going to follow Maisie’s lead with a lot of things. We do use guidance from other sources but we follow her cues as to hunger/tiredness etc. it has meant that things have felt chaotic at times, but we seem to have a really happy baby and I feel like maybe those things are linked… who knows?!

From the ten month mark she’s been eating three meals a day and drinking milk before sleep. It’s definitely helped with adding some structure. Maisie seems to like the regularity of meals too. Having those markers in the day I guess helps her to know what’s going on.

The other regular thing we’ve added to our daily routine (when the weather is playing ball) is that Tom takes Maisie for a morning stroll while I get ready. They both really enjoy it and get to feed the ducks at the park every day!

Hopefully now that we’ve established a bit more of a routine I’ll have more of a chance to write and update my blog. I have several drafts to edit from ages ago, and a few new ones in the pipeline. Things may seem a bit weird timeline wise but I figure I might as well still share the posts from a while ago!

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